Laura Bo Creative

Category: Brain Dump

  • Curiosity… Why do we stop being curious?

    I have a thing with words, and with context. I believe honesty and transparency are key, if one is confused they should ask for clarification. Not everyone knows everything, but there are things that everyone SHOULD know. Let’s talk about curiosity — and I think before we begin, let’s make sure we are all referring to the same definition.

    Curiosity (noun)

    a strong desire to know or learn something. “filled with curiosity, she peered through the window” According to Oxford Languages Dictionary.

    I found this in a journal from October 2020:
    Another term for experience is the “curse of knowledge” — when we have done something before or feel that we know it, we tend to stop asking questions.

    We don’t go back to the beginning and dig deep to find new aspects of it. We jump to the conclusion much more quickly.


    Basically, we stop asking WHY. We stop learning.
    THAT’S BAD. The cure for stagnation = curiosity.

    When you couple experience with curiosity, amazing things can happen.

    The ability to question things that we already “know”. That isn’t easy to do.

    Insatiable curiosity can be uncomfortable, even annoying… it is definitely annoying. But asking basic questions, and challenging the usual “That’s just how we do it” is the way to create something that hooks people.

    Curiosity is a state of active interest

    Do we like it simply because it’s familiar? Or because it’s the best approach?

    When we are curious, we see things differently; we use our powers of observation more fully. We are able to see a different perspective.

    Why does it feel like as you grow older you stop asking WHY? You stop asking HOW? You just accept everything as it is — good or bad.

  • A Message from My Inner Critic

    Find your style, find your niche, be unique, standout, do this, do that, if it’s not working then you’re not doing it right, don;t be too loud, don’t be too quiet. Blah blah fucking blah. I just want to turn it off. Turn off the noise. Shut it all out. Shut it all down. And say see you later. I want to run to the woods and blast music and throw paint, and get sticky from gluesticks. I want to play in the dirt with my kid. I want to not feel like I am a burden. And I don’t know if I feel like a burden to myself or to my inner critic. 

    Im messy. My story is messy. Currently it feels like a tangle of fairy lights or yarn or something. Trying to piece it together and roll it back so it makes more sense to me, which unlocks things I may or may not be ready to deal with, accept, move past. 

  • Rewrite – What’s With All The Internet Rules?

    When I first started getting tattoos at the ripe age of 15, my mother was pissed. She always used to say “ Well who’s going to hire you, like that?” My response was always the same “ If they won’t hire me because of my tattoos then it’s clearly not someplace I want to work…” I responded the same way every time, and it applies to more than just my body art. Nowadays, there are all these rules and best practices about how to conduct yourself on the internet. 

    Back when I was in high school/college and Facebook was relatively new, there were loads of rules on what to NOT post on your profile so you could project a “young professional” so that job recruiters and potential employers won’t essentially judge you on what you did on your off time. So no party photos, no photos with alcohol, show off your community work, blah blah blah. Out of the 243 profile photos I uploaded to Facebook starting in 2006, 53 of them have alcohol, cigarettes, or display some type of partying. These were some of my favorite profile photos ever (on Facebook).

    So clearly I didn’t follow those rules, and I still don’t. I am the same person IRL as I am on the URL (the internet). My LinkedIn profile is a selfie, and I’m throwing up the peace sign. Should I have some professional headshot? Maybe. But is that me? Nope, not one bit. Am I being judged or passed on by recruiters or potential job opportunities? Maybe. But am I still successful? Yes, I am. 

    So why do people continue to sacrifice their true selves to “fit in”. People started creating multiple accounts so they could post about whatever they want and not be judged or penalized for their posts. IMO things have changed since the time when our parents got jobs. 

    Now what about content posted? What about twitter? How many people lose their jobs over twitter? Too many to count at this point. It’s 2018. The internet knows everything. You can’t hide. Once it’s there, it’s there forever. Especially if you’re popular, or in the public eye. People are watching and essentially waiting for someone to say something fucked up or offensive. [Which brings up an additional point, slightly off topic, but still relevant. Why the FUCK is everyone offended by everything these days?] 

    So why do people continue to sacrifice their true selves to “fit in”. People started creating multiple accounts so they could post about whatever they want and not be judged or penalized for their posts.