Tag: curiosity

  • Banned Words & Shit

    Banned Words & Shit

    Let’s start off with some context perhaps, but also let me drop in this nugget from the FCC so I can link back to it. And let’s keep in mind that I originally set out to discuss this is in relation to broadcasting on TV & radio, but on examination I realize it plays a part in how society views words, language, etc. for an entire generation or two or three or forever cyclically.

    For the purposes of this article specifically I am really referring to George Carlin’s “7 Dirty Words” but of course on looking into it, the rabbit hole got heated, and here we are.

    The “7 banned words” are famous English-language profanities first listed in George Carlin’s 1972 monologue. They are: shit, piss, fuck, cunt, cocksucker, motherfucker, and tits. These also became one of the funniest bits called “Family Reunion” on their live album in 1999. Somehow my bestie got her hands on a copy and we would listen to it secretly so our parents didn’t take the CD away.

    “Federal law prohibits obscene, indecent and profane content from being broadcast on the radio or TV.
    That may seem clear enough, but determining what obscene, indecent and profane mean can be difficult, depending on who you talk to.
    In the Supreme Court’s 1964 landmark case on obscenity and pornography, Justice Stewart Potter famously wrote: “I know it when I see it.” That case still influences FCC rules today, and complaints from the public about broadcasting objectionable content drive the enforcement of those rules.
    In other words, if you “know it when you see it” and find it objectionable, you can tell the FCC and ask us to check into it.

    Deciding what’s obscene, indecent or profane
    Each type of content has a distinct definition:
    Obscene content does not have protection by the First Amendment. For content to be ruled obscene, it must meet a three-pronged test established by the Supreme Court: It must appeal to an average person’s prurient interest; depict or describe sexual conduct in a “patently offensive” way; and, taken as a whole, lack serious literary, artistic, political or scientific value. Indecent content portrays sexual or excretory organs or activities in a way that is patently offensive but does not meet the three-prong test for obscenity.


    Profane content includes “grossly offensive” language that is considered a public nuisance. Factors in determining how FCC rules apply include the specific nature of the content, the time of day it was broadcast and the context in which the broadcast took place. Broadcasting obscene content is prohibited by law at all times of the day. Indecent and profane content are prohibited on broadcast TV and radio between 6 a.m. and 10 p.m., when there is a reasonable risk that children may be in the audience.”

    THERE IS SO MUCH FOR ME TO PROCESS HERE BUT I DIGRESS. just kidding. that is not a word for me usually. However I do have a 4 year old who has been using the word “shit” and “fuck” or “fuckin” appropriately since she started speaking.

    and furthermore as I went to get this draft posted so I could continue the research I gagged at the updated google search results.

    Some things we will explore in this article or maybe series:

    Federal Government Funding & Communications: The current federal administration has circulated agency memos—compiled by organizations like PEN America—that flag over 350+ words for removal from official websites and grant proposals. Restricted or discouraged terms include “diversity,” “equity,” “inclusion,” “science-based,” “climate change,” “abortion,” and “Native American.”

    Corporate & Everyday Jargon: In its tongue-in-cheek compilation of overused, misused, or useless language, Lake Superior State University officially banished 2026 slang and buzzwords like “demure,” “cooked,” “massive,” “6-7,” and “incentivize.”

    Educational Materials: Organizations tracking educational censorship, such as the American Federation of Teachers, have identified ongoing guidelines that restrict specific offensive, trivial, or ethnocentric terms (e.g., banning “showman” as sexist or “hordes” for immigrants).

  • Erin is Magic. She was and is my light.

    Erin is Magic. She was and is my light.

    This is the first draft of a 2 part post. This is long overdue, but something said, today was the day to share my OG notes. Some of these were semi-transcribed voice notes from some of my first sessions with her back in 2023.

    Dear Erin,

    I don’t know where to begin. I have thanked you over and over.

    first note to Erin (after the energetic essence reading)**
    Essence reading note to EPM – HOLY SHIT. I don’t know where to begin. I wish I could give you the biggest hug. I started to listen and read yesterday and immediately started crying (in a good way). So I put it down and waited until Thea went to sleep. THANK YOU. I needed this. I have been following your journey for a bit now, and you have been a light for me. It was not until last night that I realized why. I love your honesty, I love that you bring your true authentic self to the table.

    This was exactly how I have been feeling for far too long. I had an intense cry, because every single thing I thought was what you said right after. It was a little surreal to be honest. and not long ago I acknowledged it but still felt stuck. And while I know this isn’t an instant fix and it opened up a whole bag of things I have been trying to bury, I guess I needed to feel heard, and this reading made me feel HEARD and so SEEN. I guess I needed someone to just confirm my feelings, my thoughts, and put it into words for me.

    There is so much to unpack for me here. I recently and abruptly “quit” my job and offered them some time as a transition (and also for me to do income). It came out in a burst, and I didn’t feel ready to quit, but apparently my subconscious did. The transition is supposed to be through the end of June and now may extend through July

    Side Note: I have always been hesitant about tapping into my energy “stuff”. Maybe because I wasn’t ready to go there, and part of me knows it had to do with being embarrassed/ self-conscious (not the right word).

    voice notes transcription below
    Thank you Erin P
    Okay, so about let’s talk let’s start with a year ago but like 13 months ago, uh my buddy, Johnny Mitchell. Got married in February last year to this fucking awesome, girl named Erin. Um, We’ll go into our backstory briefly in a bit, but, uh, maybe I need to do it now.

    The the first time I met Erin was at Erin’s apartment, I got shithoused because I was meeting two of my best guy college friends new girlfriends, at the same time, in the same night… And I felt so uncomfortable. (for context: I used to drink a lot when it came to social situations that was how I “loosened up”.)That was how I became the “fun girl”. Uh, also the girl that didn’t know when to stop.

    Back on topic. So Erin and I didn’t really talk. We I’ve started following her online. John and Erin got married. Let me just say I fucking love them, I love her. Uh, She has been the light for me.

    Um, And we’re coming up on a year now. I guess of the start of my healing Journey, if you will, um, And forgive me for the Sarcastic tone. When I say healing Journey, I It’s just the language makes me feel uncomfortable. We’re working on that. Back on topic.

    I’m going through my journals. So, like A year, literally a year ago, Erin offered a I think, um, it was like a past life regression session. I signed up for it, it was a free thing. I was like, you know what, let me check this out. I wasn’t ready to spend money, I think out of fear, which is dumb, I don’t know why people are so scared of paying for things that help them. Like you spend money on bullshit and the things and the Superficial shit, that you think helps you but it’s really just a coping mechanism anyway.

    So I did this past life reggression thing. It took me three tries to do it by myself and I had a fucking trip and it was like an Awakening if you will. So, I followed her, her honesty really helped me give grace to myself and accept that shit is hard sometimes. I’m not explaining this well and I’m trying so hard to not get off topic, but anyway, I did a couple of the free things with her. I finally reached out and I said, “hey, I wanted to do something with you. I’m not sure what” She had a couple offers available at the time. “So I said, I’m interested in this and I’m also interested in this, but I don’t know what’s right for me. Like, what do you think?”

    She offered to do a combo session for me.

    And that was July 11th, 2023. Um, just so everyone knows. I’m talking right now and it’s it’s March 13th 2024. Anyway, uh In that session. Uh, she told she Told me about human design. Of course I’m like. What the fuck? Here we go. Uh, and then she just Started talking.

    Now this girl doesn’t know me very well at this point. She only knows what she’s seen online or what she’s heard from John or our other friends and you know, whatever, whatever it may be. What do I know? Uh, Every single thing she said. Always just like, I was like, are you in my fucking brain?

    It was it was like she was in there. Being like, this is exactly how you feel. And she would say exactly how I was feeling before. I could even get the words out. I think the biggest thing that I got from that first call with her, Was. Rest, um, not letting myself rest giving my permit.

    Giving myself permission Be myself and do my shit. And I it was like I needed her to give me permission to rest. And honestly, I don’t think that session went how she probably would have intended it but it was everything I needed and then some Um, She’s the reason why I quit my toxic job and I mean that as a thank you.

    I am so grateful. She had me put a day on it and I did and I quit, it took me three times. My company was not trying to let me quit. Uh, and I quit. Um, That, that was the end of July, so August of 2023.

    And I know this whole post is gonna have to get broken down into a few, but the point of this is that I am so eternally grateful for Erin and showing me human design among other things.

    Here we are in 2026, so many things have changed and stayed the same. I have so much more to say on the updated topcs and my latest experiences with Erin.

    But I’m going to tap out of this one for now… But i leave you with some ways to learn more about Erin P on your own terms. I would pay her all my money at this point for the snippets of knowledge and truth she shares. She has been a force and guiding light in my life and I am not sure where I would be without her.

    Find Erin P on instagram [@erinpanzarella]
    Check out her resources via her linktree here.

  • Creature Counts – WIP – Updated Nov 13 2025

    Creature Counts – WIP – Updated Nov 13 2025

    I want to add a “critter counter” or “creature counts” to the site this season, but in the meantime I have been meeting lots of new animals, bugs, birds, etc. since we arrived to upstate new york, (more on that in an upcoming post).

    Recently though I encountered a Masked Hunter Nymph (Reduvius Personatus) a type fo assassin bug according to the google lens search. [image coming shortly].

    They earned their nickname “dustbug” because they cover themselves in dust, lint & debris. It looked like a crawling dust spider when I first saw it.

    Anyway — i will be sharing the bugs & things we meet here with info, photos, etc. Additionally there will be an entire section for flowers. Historically these categories were referred to as Flora & Fauna.


    Heading into October in the Catskill Mountains we are seeing all the bears, we have a returning deer family of 3 that come to visit twice a day. The house we moved into in August was previously inhabited by chipmunks.


    November 2025

    The update was triggered by reviewing and updating a to do list when I noticed this post still talked about the house we were moving out of — LOL. We are in the process of moving again, and hopefully for the last time. The house we had moved into in August was not “previously inhabited by chipmunks as I mentioned above, it was INHABITED by chipmunks, mice, maybe a rat or two, barn swallows, and a lot of bugs. [read the full story in parts starting here].

    This house has crow visitors, cardinals, and lots of neighbors with dogs and cats from what I can see. It sits on 24 acres, and as winter comes I look forward to seeing it bare, and having the glorious opportunity to watch it come to life this Spring.

  • The Age of My Darkness

    The Age of My Darkness

    The age of my darkness is coming to an end — perhaps not forever but at least for now. The days are getting shorter, and the air is getting crisper. The birds are calling, and the trees gently whisper. The forest is a place to rest. I have found a place I can feel my best.

  • WORD SHIT: Persistent

    Persistent

    [pərˈsistənt] adjective

    continuing firmly or obstinately in a course of action in spite of difficulty or opposition.


  • WORD SHIT: Stubborn

    Stubborn

    [ˈstəbərn] adjective

    having or showing dogged determination not to change one’s attitude or position on something, especially in spite of good arguments or reasons to do so.


    Thoughts to come….

  • WORD SHIT: Audacity

    Audacity

    [ôˈdasədē,äˈdasədē] noun

    1.a willingness to take bold risks.

    2.rude or disrespectful behavior; impudence.


  • WORD SHIT: Comply

    Comply

    [kəmˈplī/] verb

    (of a person or group) act in accordance with a wish or command.


    See also: Compliance

  • WORD SHIT: Compliance

    Compliance

    [kəmˈplīəns] noun

    the action or fact of complying with a wish or command.


    See also: Comply

  • WORD SHIT: Efficient

    Efficient

    [əˈfiSHənt] adjective

    (especially of a system or machine) achieving maximum productivity with minimum wasted effort or expense.

    productive of desired effects especially : capable of producing desired results with little or no waste (as of time or materials)


    These days corporate beans are hyper-focused on productivity, efficiency and growth. Upon inspection of said beans, it appears that the more corporate the bean, the less efficient the bean.

    Let me explain:

    To be continued….


  • WORD SHIT: Brilliant

    Brilliant

    [ˈbrilyənt] adjective

    1.(of light or color) very bright and radiant.

    2. exceptionally clever or talented.


  • Dear Parents – part deux

    Dear Parents – part deux

    The following was an email sent to the parent community at my kids school.



  • Perspective on Industry Experience

    Perspective on Industry Experience

    Industry Experience Perspective

    Recently I was thinking about resumes, the rules for job applications, the interview process, and the absurdity of what minimum qualifications are theses days. How your experience and experience for a specific industry to Industry.

    And it made me think about how I’ve been in so many different Industries and that’s a large part of the reason I’ve been successful in past roles. Not to mention if I am interested in something, I will absolutely believe I am capable of doing it and learning how to do it on the fly.

    Why do you want someone that’s only been in one industry, or doing the same thing at the same place for like 10 years? That seems unbearably narrow-minded and honestly counterintuitive when you really think about it.

    New hires, consultants, contractors, vendors, etc. are generally brought on when a company is experiencing growth or is stuck.
    You’re bringing them on to either fill a gap, expansion or because of what you think you know about their expertise and experience in a role/industry.

    Too many brands are ignoring the aspect of curiosity.

    A new hire, a new contractor, or any new relationship should bring new things to the table.

    A DIFFERENT PERSPECTIVE. A NEW SOLUTION.

    Both of those things often come from experience working in different Industries, roles, companies, teams. Someone who can look at a problem differently, flip it upside down and shake it the fuck up.

    That’s the point. The basis of it at least. I will come back to this…

    To be continued – with examples…


  • What Makes A Good Parent?

    In the midst of my increasingly ugly divorce with my soon to be ex-husband we continue to “disagree” on some seemingly universal basics. Now while some of you may be thinking — just don’t talk to him. Move out. Be the bigger person. Please kindly and disrespectfully fuck off. Three years of silence and being the bigger person got me here to this exact point.

    So after a quick google search of “what makes a good father?” for the comic relief, followed by the same search of “what makes a good mother?” it has occured to me that society in this country is FUCKED. (As if we didn’t already know this.)

    Below are the two images of the top things listed for each search as prepared by google.

    As noted these were compiled from various sources across the web. WHAT IN THE ACTUAL FUCK THOUGH?

    *Please note I am fully aware of what MY definition of a good parent is on both sides. We will get to that.

    Can we just talk about the apologize when necessary first?


    To be continued….

  • Word Shit: Minimize

    Minimize

    [ˈminəˌmīz] verb

    reduce (something, especially something unwanted or unpleasant) to the smallest possible amount or degree.

    represent or estimate at less than the true value or importance.


  • Stop being so polite..

    Stop being so polite..

    Stop being so polite, and try being honest.

    It has recently come to my attention, awareness, or top of mind that I often find myself surrounded by a bunch of people so worried about offending someone, that nobody wants to say anything at all.

    Enough with the judgement, can we try to lead with curiosity?

    Come from a place of understanding, or wanting to understand. Enough with the judgements, the assumptions, the snarky passive-aggressive bullshit.

    Say what you mean and mean it.


  • Word Shit: Principle

    Principle

    [ˈprinsəp(ə)l] noun

    1.A fundamental truth or proposition that serves as the foundation for a system of belief or behavior or for a chain of reasoning.

    2. a general scientific theorem or law that has numerous special applications across a wide field.


    Principle is often confused with principal. Coming back to this post shortly.

  • Dear Parents,

    Dear Parents,

    Last night at Family Night I watched a little girl be inherently mean to my kid, over and over. My kid is 3. In an effort to let her “handle” the situation on her own, I would check in periodically, I stayed close by.

    She looked so sad and confused. And then I just couldn’t.  I told her when she was ready to leave we could go home and have ice cream (yes I absolutely bribed my kid to leave). We left 10 minutes later. 

     We all have varying degrees of what’s acceptable, but honestly this shit is getting old. I refuse to accept the excuses that “boys will be boys, and that’s just how girls are at that age.”

    WHAT? Nope. Sorry. No thank you.

    Can we stop making excuses for our kids behavior when its shitty? It seems like as parents we often excuse certain things because it is a direct reflection of ourselves, or we become aware of how our words and actions have shaped our own kids consciously or not.

    I believe we can do better. I know for a fact that a 4 year old saying “You make no sense, I am going to ignore you and everything you say” while simultaneously blocking and pushing a younger kid didn’t come from nowhere. Not allowing my kid to try and make friends with any other kid is shitty.

    let’s take a minute and think of how we can be supportive of each other and our children. I implore you to approach life from a place of curiosity and understanding vs. judgement and assumption.

    The displays of judgement and snobbiness that are infecting this neighborhood are ugly. Your kids see you. We all see you.

    To be continued…