Perspective
[ per – spek – tiv ] noun
The aspect in which a subject or its parts are mentally viewed;esp: a view of things in their true relationship or relative importance.
Author: Laura Rex
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WORD SHIT: Perspective
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Crazy Bear Lady, Crazy Bird Lady.
My Grandma was an artist, she was my father’s mother. Everyone called her eccentric. Her house was covered in plants and paintings, she had cats, and the best climbing tree in her front yard. She fed the birds and the squirrels, and pretty much all of the critters that came to visit. She also liked to “chase bears” out of the neighborhood and back into the forest. They called her the crazy bear lady, and she was the absolute BEST.
Sometimes I forget how much I adored and admired her. She spent all day painting things and talking to the animals, it sounded like the best life to me as a kid. We lost touch shortly after I cut contact with my dad, and i wish we hadn’t. After she passed, no one told me, so all of her art went who knows where and I was lucky enough to have 3 paintings given to me, one of them was of me, and I have the matching photo.
I love birds. I always have. As a kid I wanted my superpower to be flight, I wanted to fly. When I moved into my current apartment, I was ecstatic to have such a busy backyard. Mind you, this is Ridgewood, Queens.We had squirrels, Cardinals, Blue Jays, Mourning Doves, the little chickadees, Starlings, Catbirds, Woodpeckers, and most recently the Crows have moved into the neighborhood, and a Hawk has made it’s home nearby (like in the trees that border my yard nearby).
I have a special place in my heart for Cardinals and Crows. I taught my daughter to ‘call’ for the crows by calling. They always come.
To be continued….
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Questions on a Friday
Why do people ask “How are you?” if they don’t truly want to know?
Why does it always feel like someone is offended by the difference of opinion?
When did the general public get so fucking lazy?
Who makes all the rules?
How does advice become cliche quotes/ sayings?
Why were we told not to burn our bridges down?
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A Name Is A Name Is A Name.
What’s in a name? That famous quote by Shakespeare. I googled ‘famous quotes about names’ and a few stuck out — not sure if I qualify them as famous persay.
“Names are powerful things. They act as an identity marker and a kind of map, locating you in time and geography. More than that, they can be a compass” – Bookroo
“There’s power in naming yourself, in proclaiming to the world that this is who you are” – Brainyquote [i question this source, but will save that for another time.
“Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom” –Aristotle.
A cliche one for good measure “Be yourself. Everyone else is already taken” – Oscar Wilde.
There is a common saying that feels ingrained in my head from my younger years “Make a name for yourself” it always felt so intimidating and permanent — until it didn’t. Sure it is still intimidating, but it did not take long for me to realize that a name is not permanent, neither is a reputation. I have changed my name legally 3 times. I just straight up made up a new name when I was 12 and told people at camp that my name was Fiona — I carried that name with me through my high school years at boarding school. I went back to Laura in college, but again, we were in a new place, so I made up my own nickname “Bo” and Laura Bo has stuck with me ever since.
To be continued…
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42 – Full Moon
I love the moon. I love when it’s a full moon. I love seeing the moon when it’s a “supermoon”. I sing my daughter to sleep every night to the tune of Moon River.
Last night was the Hunter’s Full Moon. It was beautiful. I remembered reading something in an email about using the light of the full moon to see your shadows and then making a choice. The wonderful wisdom shared by Christie Inge. Last night’s full moon was also in Gate 42 (an aspect of Human Design).
The answer to everything is 42.
I go in and out of my need to lean on Human Design, astrology, psychology, etc for understanding, self-awareness, reflection, justification and/or validation.
A part of me didn’t want to let go of the idea that “one day I’d get my shit together enough to finish everything I started.” – Christie Inge
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Identity Crisis as a Cycle
Let’s start at context matters. Uh, and words I’ve been really on words and wanting to use the right words and on this whole like healing reflection. If you will, I’ve come to figure out that as part of my ADHD and autism and all my masking and blah blah blah.
I have cyclically — however, I don’t like saying that so — I have continuously been on some type of cycle as far as the evolution of one’s self-identity. Where I have latched on or identified with a word or an image or some type of “theme” and then somehow it becomes my entire identity… perhaps we should call it a persona though, and it can last for a month, a year, even a couple of years in some cases.
Um, But, As I’ve been trying to go back through and like, figure out who I am now. Um, and what I Keep around or evolve or Throw away or Call. Barry say goodbye to, I don’t know. Have a funeral for if you will. Um, I’ve been figuring out that I always simultaneously have a Internal battle with myself about who I want to be, who I want the world to see me as and Who.
I think the world sees me as um and those are like three very different things and I need to figure out some type of visual Support element to help me describe that. So, at this point, we know, I’m a mom. I’m a parent. I’m a partner, I’m a wife which I’m still grasping, like I’m still working through that.
Um, Because I have a lot of feelings towards that one. But my big ones are I want? I’m a maker, I’m a creative. And I am a DOT connector and I have to figure out how to Make that make sense. Two people, um, or maybe I don’t and people can interpret it how they want and it’ll either connect with them or it won’t.
Uh, canva AI. They’re I guess it’s like their free write or their magic. Right? Has been super helpful in getting some of my stuff. Better worded if you will. Or reminding me. Of words that make perfect sense for exactly what I’m trying to say. At that moment without me getting frustrated, trying to remember what the fucking word is.
But I’m also drowning in like a million other words. And Trying to not get stuck on words that I don’t want to be because I it’s so much easier to go to the negative or go to the. I know I don’t want this. So for now, we’re going to go with dot connector maker.
And there’s a part of me that wants to kind of come out and say ha I’m autistic if you know me then this makes sense because XYZ and do a whole series. With that. Um, I just have to work through all the funny examples that I’ve been pulling out.
And honestly, some of the biggest help has been from this one Instagram account, uh, the Manifesto community and it’s just this lady Holly herbig You could call her a genius. But really, it’s just the first time that I’ve had a person that has a brain similar to mine. Uh, say things that in words that make sense to me.
In in ways that resonate with me. Um, But there was something that you posted two days ago, That said, remember repelling and magnetizing happens unconsciously as a function of your aura. We can break down all those things, uh, some other time. Um, and then she goes on to say, you aren’t choosing to magnetize or repel anyone, but you can certainly feel the Winds of Change long before, others, do and know it’s time for you to leave a community or Social Circle.
I needed to know that 15 years ago because I did know it, but I didn’t know how to just say. Oh, okay, cool. And then move on. I thought there was something wrong with me so I kept trying to fight it and try and stick around and it would make me miserable because I fucking hated wherever I was, um, and I realized that like I can’t be in jobs.
For longer than two years. Three years Max and that’s only if there’s like some big thing that happens after the second year, um and maybe that would be different if I felt Uh, to like Blow with my stuff at work. Um, But it’s always like no not right now or not this and blah blah and then by the time they’re ready to do it.
I’m over it. So I realized that the biggest thing that I need to get over. Is this whole Community aspect? I keep trying to find my people and I just need to fucking be myself. And be in the world again. Um, so let’s do this.
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Marketing Lifecycle Metaphor – The Amoeba BB
Customer amoeba baby – marketing lifecycle metaphorMarketing is not a funnel and it’s not a flywheel. It’s like a wave. It’s like a fluid amoeba. Blobby wave, I have to draw it I guess, but And it moves because people come in and out. I may have been. A customer of parenting stuff and then My baby’s not a baby.
And then i move out of it — I’m not the target now. But maybe if there’s a baby in my life: friends, family, or whatever baby shower, I will suggest it or I will get it for them, you know. I don’t think that always gets accounted for. It’s not really a secondary target group as far as I’m concerned.
Funnels and flywheels don’t work because you can’t control the path of the target, you can guide it, you can block it, you can try to trap it, but there are all of these “other factors” that you don’t know and/or have no control over because in the end control is an illusion.
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Thriving on the thrill – WIP
Finding a new way to streamline a process or coming up with an innovative product idea, I thrive on the thrill of discovery and the satisfaction of making things better.
My approach may be unconventional, but thinking outside the box is essential for growth and progress.
It’s about looking at challenges from different angles/perspectives and not being afraid to try something new. After all, every expert was once a beginner, and every groundbreaking idea started as a simple thought.
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Everyone loves a good quilt.
Perseverance and a positive mindset can turn any obstacle into a stepping stone.
So, keep pushing boundaries, embracing the unknown, and strive to follow your dreams.
It will make an impact.In the end, it’s not just about achieving success or getting rich — it’s about learning and growing along the way. Each challenge faced and each solution found adds to the patchwork of experience that has shaped who I am and what I can accomplish.
We might not be cut from the same cloth, but everyone loves a good quilt.
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Curiosity… Why do we stop being curious?
I have a thing with words, and with context. I believe honesty and transparency are key, if one is confused they should ask for clarification. Not everyone knows everything, but there are things that everyone SHOULD know. Let’s talk about curiosity — and I think before we begin, let’s make sure we are all referring to the same definition.
Curiosity (noun)
a strong desire to know or learn something. “filled with curiosity, she peered through the window” According to Oxford Languages Dictionary.
I found this in a journal from October 2020:
Another term for experience is the “curse of knowledge” — when we have done something before or feel that we know it, we tend to stop asking questions.We don’t go back to the beginning and dig deep to find new aspects of it. We jump to the conclusion much more quickly.
Basically, we stop asking WHY. We stop learning.
THAT’S BAD. The cure for stagnation = curiosity.When you couple experience with curiosity, amazing things can happen.
The ability to question things that we already “know”. That isn’t easy to do.
Insatiable curiosity can be uncomfortable, even annoying… it is definitely annoying. But asking basic questions, and challenging the usual “That’s just how we do it” is the way to create something that hooks people.
Curiosity is a state of active interest
Do we like it simply because it’s familiar? Or because it’s the best approach?
When we are curious, we see things differently; we use our powers of observation more fully. We are able to see a different perspective.
Why does it feel like as you grow older you stop asking WHY? You stop asking HOW? You just accept everything as it is — good or bad.
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A Message from My Inner Critic
Find your style, find your niche, be unique, standout, do this, do that, if it’s not working then you’re not doing it right, don;t be too loud, don’t be too quiet. Blah blah fucking blah. I just want to turn it off. Turn off the noise. Shut it all out. Shut it all down. And say see you later. I want to run to the woods and blast music and throw paint, and get sticky from gluesticks. I want to play in the dirt with my kid. I want to not feel like I am a burden. And I don’t know if I feel like a burden to myself or to my inner critic.
Im messy. My story is messy. Currently it feels like a tangle of fairy lights or yarn or something. Trying to piece it together and roll it back so it makes more sense to me, which unlocks things I may or may not be ready to deal with, accept, move past.
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Rewrite – What’s With All The Internet Rules?
When I first started getting tattoos at the ripe age of 15, my mother was pissed. She always used to say “ Well who’s going to hire you, like that?” My response was always the same “ If they won’t hire me because of my tattoos then it’s clearly not someplace I want to work…” I responded the same way every time, and it applies to more than just my body art. Nowadays, there are all these rules and best practices about how to conduct yourself on the internet.
Back when I was in high school/college and Facebook was relatively new, there were loads of rules on what to NOT post on your profile so you could project a “young professional” so that job recruiters and potential employers won’t essentially judge you on what you did on your off time. So no party photos, no photos with alcohol, show off your community work, blah blah blah. Out of the 243 profile photos I uploaded to Facebook starting in 2006, 53 of them have alcohol, cigarettes, or display some type of partying. These were some of my favorite profile photos ever (on Facebook).
So clearly I didn’t follow those rules, and I still don’t. I am the same person IRL as I am on the URL (the internet). My LinkedIn profile is a selfie, and I’m throwing up the peace sign. Should I have some professional headshot? Maybe. But is that me? Nope, not one bit. Am I being judged or passed on by recruiters or potential job opportunities? Maybe. But am I still successful? Yes, I am.
So why do people continue to sacrifice their true selves to “fit in”. People started creating multiple accounts so they could post about whatever they want and not be judged or penalized for their posts. IMO things have changed since the time when our parents got jobs.
Now what about content posted? What about twitter? How many people lose their jobs over twitter? Too many to count at this point. It’s 2018. The internet knows everything. You can’t hide. Once it’s there, it’s there forever. Especially if you’re popular, or in the public eye. People are watching and essentially waiting for someone to say something fucked up or offensive. [Which brings up an additional point, slightly off topic, but still relevant. Why the FUCK is everyone offended by everything these days?]
So why do people continue to sacrifice their true selves to “fit in”. People started creating multiple accounts so they could post about whatever they want and not be judged or penalized for their posts.
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Industry Experience Perspective
Industry Experience Perspective – A DRAFT
I was just thinking about on resumes and your experience and experience that for industry to Industry. And it made me think about, How I’ve been in so many different Industries and that’s the whole reason why I’ve been successful. Like why do you want someone that’s only been in this one industry, you’re essentially bringing them on to help you.
And, Their expertise. Should bring new things to the table in A New Perspective which comes from working in different Industries. It’s like, take looking at a problem differently. Right. That’s the that’s the point. The basis of it.
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Friday, January 19th, 2024
Current Mood: Optimistic
Current Song: Lines in my face [Chronic Future]It’s Friday! It’s supposed to be everybody’s favorite day of the week.
Here are some of the articles I read today:
Parenting Mantras to raise resilient Kids here
Kids learn better with paper vs screens here
Wealth vs. Rich hereI am working on some projects and decor for 🦖’s room, and her latest things have been her dinosaurs, Dino Ranch (the show) and Lucas The Spider.
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Thursday,January 18th, 2024
Current mood: fine.
Current Song: Last Yr Rly Sucked [StayLoose, Blair]In my ban.do planner it said that the sun was entering aquarius this week, it said it a few times, so I googled it.
“sun enters aquarius 2024” → the first little blurb was the following: A desire to break free will become more pronounced when the sun enters Aquarius on January 20, 2024, at 9:07 a.m. ET. Now that the sun is answering to Aquarius’ co-rulers, Saturn and Uranus, there might be an overwhelming feeling to be yourself. However, there could be an underlying sense of restriction. This sparked my curiosity, and made me jump down a brief rabbit hole
I went here because I liked her site name, and the site itself looked specific
https://www.thehoodwitch.com/blog/2024/1/17/pluto-in-aquarius-2024
This original search made me wonder how astrology compares to human design. I have so many friends who are so obsessed with astrology, and horoscopes. I’m not. But i found this article that I have to read still.Apparently they are similar though.
A bit farther down I found this vogue india article. And I dont want to knock on vogue, but I don;t generally consider it to have much authority on matters of the universe. Anyway, read it here. I did scan it briefly, and of course I came across the horoscope part of it. The Libra one is fascinating to me given the context of this exploration.
Libra: Leap of faith
While being the mediator comes naturally to you, the next chapter in your life courtesy of this transit is likely to make you communicate your exact emotions and move out of the ‘solo traveller’ theme of your heart. You are likely to come across many mirrors that will push you out of your comfort zone and make you question where you wish to pour your energies. Thankfully, the universe has your back so everything will work out just fine.When will it happen? “Gear up for an era filled with supportive collaborations where opportunities, connections and a turn of events that support a more altruistic theme of life become pronounced.“
I will come back to this shortly.
I wanted to include some of the handwritten notes I wrote down yesterday when I was trying to clear my head. I have been spinning my “wheels” for what feels like an eternity, but probably for the better part of the last 4 years, trying to find the next path to go down.
So back to the whole Aquarius thing, and all I keep singing in my head is “The Age of Aquarius” lol. https://stylecaster.com/lists/how-aquarius-season-affect-each-zodiac-sign/ and also the pluto being in aquarius via SC is here
https://www.refinery29.com/en-us/2024/01/11642274/aquarius-season-january-2024-meaning-effects
I stumbled upon my annual horoscope via allure here -
Hi, I’m Laura. (About Me)
I’m Laura, a maker and creator living in Ridgewood. A city kid with a short attention span who likes sparkly, happy things and weed. I aim to share my opinions, insights and experiences through this blog. Join me on this journey as I honestly review and rant about real shit.
BASICS: NYC Original. Currently in Ridgewood, Queens.
LIKES: dogs, cats, flannel, music, travel, colors, fonts, design, architecture, leopard print, leather jackets, palm trees, road trips, bad tv-shows, stars, planets, hitchhiker’s guide to the galaxy, organization, knitting, painting, collages, etc.
DISLIKES: lizards, spiders, paisley, orange, people who are late, museums, hipsters, sand, slow walkers, mosquitoes, etc.
